Expectations get a bad rap. “Happiness is reality minus expectations,” is a refrain I hear from some seemingly enlightened circles, and it sounds good in theory. “The moment you stop having expectations is the moment you start having peace,” I think was said by people who don’t actually live in reality. I’m not buying this expectation of having no expectations. As I see it, we all have expectations all the time, but we become most aware of them when the expectations aren’t met.


The other day, I stopped by a hotel to drop off a book. The Flagstaff Leadership Program asked if I would give one of the new resilience stories books to …


“Your feet are, como se dice: mal?“ my dance teacher in Cuba says and asks me. “Bad,” I say. “Your feet are bad,” he says. I knew he meant that …


I scream from my seat in movie theaters when someone jumps out. In my house growing up, my mom’s & my startle-reflex would make an energetic appearance when we’d accidentally …


“We will ride 31 miles today of undulating hills,” our guide says. We are cycling & sweating our way through the costal hills between Cienfuegos & Playa Larga & Trinidad. …


I recently heard a statistic that if we have a culture of high inclusion, burnout decreases by 93%. This helps me to understand myself and my motivations for my work. …


Recently, I’ve learned that there are chapters in life.  The really long ones, like raising kids until they are 18, sometimes seem like forever, but really it’s not.  Having a …


2 things happened at once. I was in the midst selecting the editor for a book I’ve been writing through Amplify Publishing about how people can increase their leadership impact …


Walking in capital city the night before boarding the train to our trailhead, I tripped down the curb. With my head swiveling back and forth desperately trying to figure out …


Speaking Scottish

I prepped for this hike by eating lots of shortbread. One can’t train too much for these things. Along this eight day hike, much of the trek is alongside a …