The Hazardous 1/2 Minute

Performance Feedback

Giving effective feedback is one of the most essential and often misunderstood leadership skills. It’s not just about performance correction; it’s about shaping culture, strengthening relationships, and unlocking growth.

During a recent leadership institute, a participant raised a question that sparked a powerful conversation: “How do you give feedback well and create a culture that’s open to it?”

One attendee challenged the popular “5:1 rule”—the idea of padding constructive feedback with five positives. He argued that performative praise diluted the message and preferred a direct approach:

“There are a lot of things you’re doing well. But there’s one thing that’s holding you back. It’s your Achilles heel, and I want to tell you about it.”

That kind of clarity and courage is exactly what leadership demands.

Popularized by Dr. John Gottman, the 5:1 ratio isn’t about cramming five compliments into one conversation. It’s about cultivating a leadership style that consistently notices and acknowledges what people are doing right. When feedback is delivered in the context of trust and relationship, it’s more likely to be heard and acted upon.

This approach builds what can be called an emotional bank account. When leaders make regular deposits, through genuine appreciation and recognition, they earn the right to make withdrawals in the form of tough feedback. And those withdrawals are far more likely to be received with openness.

Joseph Grenny’s concept of the “hazardous half-minute” from Crucial Conversations highlights the importance of how feedback conversations begin. The first 30 seconds set the tone. If leaders dance around the issue, sugarcoat it, or delay the point, they risk confusing the person and eroding trust.

Instead, start with clarity and optimism:

“There are many things you do well. But there’s one thing we need to focus on, and I believe you can grow through it.”

Many leaders say, “I’m doing a lot of things well, but I struggle with giving performance feedback that leads to real change, without damaging relationships or culture.”

This challenge is common and solvable. Feedback isn’t just a skill to master; it’s a responsibility to embrace. When done well, it becomes one of the most powerful tools leaders have to build trust, drive growth, and shape thriving teams.

Leadership is not just about delivering feedback—it’s about designing an environment where feedback flourishes. When leaders model clarity, appreciation, and emotional bravery, they shape cultures that thrive on growth, not defensiveness. Let’s move beyond techniques and toward intentionality, choosing feedback not as a transactional exchange but as a transformational act of leadership.

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